Kindness and Coffee

AlyseMcKealLCSW

This is how I am feeling today,  this fine Wednesday. I am always in need of more kindness in the world and for myself. I will even forego my coffee. 😉

It can be rough dealing with others sometimes especially when they forget to treat us as kind or nice as we need, would like or are used to. All of us get into these mindsets too, that people don’t change or a certain way (negative or positive).  So, we often end up having some bit of projection or transference (More on this at a later date) and are disappointed by them.   Sometimes, there is some of this going on but not always and really we have to meet people where they are at and how they are approaching us. (We are not their therapist, mom, dad, responsible adult, not usually for that one.)  Unfortunately, people are responding based upon what is going on with them, whether it be emotionally, mentally, perceptually, psychologically, and physically. Life is not easy, that is certain. Sigh. Deep breath, sigh. We know that they probably have their own stuff going on but it is still difficult to deal with and we don’t need nor want to be someone’s doormat… that doesn’t feel good and it’s not our job.  Yet, if we knew how they were feeling or thinking, it would easier to be compassionate.  Maybe we could try to imagine how they are feeling/thinking and hold a space for that. Perhaps if we meet them with compassion and kindness, they will in turn be able to provide us with a safer, kinder place.  And if they are not able to do so, then what is really lost in that? I find that when I am more compassionate to others, that then I in turn can be more compassionate with myself (whether it my adult self, my inner child, etc.)   So that is what is gained a growing compassion for the self. We can never, repeat, not ever, be too compassionate with ourselves.

It has been a tough week, so far. So, it is my final week of working 4 ten hour days with Fridays off due to summer sessions ending. Although I love my Fridays, I am looking forward to being back to the usual 8 hour or so hour days and 2 day weekends. Change is good but tough. Sending you kindness x 20. Enjoy your day!

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